So you’re struggling to find out what your passion is? Welcome to the club! In this blog post, I’ll share my thoughts that perhaps can give you some new ways of approaching this dilemma. I use to listen to people saying phrases like “create a business around your passion” and be somewhat jealous when hearing that. “Easy for you to say, I don’t even know what my passion is”. Well, after contemplating on this problem for a while, I’ve come up with a solution that works well for me. The answer lies in the concept of beliefs and mindset. If you read this blog you know that we’re fond of phrases like “perception is reality” and so on. I believe that there is tremendous power in thoughts, but I also believe there is tremendous power in no thoughts as well. Okay, the hokus pokus has begun, let’s dive deeper.
When I was 15 years old, I thought that I had found my passion. I wanted to become a professional freestyle skier. I was going to move to another city and join a school that was dedicated to teaching this sport. My future was looking bright, but then one day when I was landing from I jump my leg said snap. I tore my knee and had to bury that dream after realizing that it would not fully recover. My passion was dead, and I entered a deep depression. I was now watching my friends with jealous eyes as they were flourishing in the sport while I was dropping out of two schools.
Looking back, I can clearly see why I hated my life back then. I was thinking that life was happening to me as oppose to thinking that it was happening for me. I was not accepting what had taken place, and I suffered because of it. So if you don’t know your passion, start with surrendering to that fact. Accept it fully and know that you’re far from alone.
Why We Wanted To Become Free First
Okay, so now you’ve hopefully come to peace with the fact that you aren’t like one of your family members who knew that she wanted to become a doctor when she was seven years old. Let’s begin with facing some facts of life. We all got to make enough money to pay our bills, food and so on. That’s just the reality and at first, our passions might not be able to solve that problem. Passion businesses are great, don’t get me wrong but the fact is that some products and services sell more than others.
Do You Choose A or B?
You have to decide which route you prefer. This is a generalisation of the two options that I think you have if your passion is not in a profitable niche:
A) Follow your passion in your spare time while still working at your job. After a couple of years you might begin to see the fruit of your labours, and hopefully, it’s enough to focus on your passion full time.
B) Concentrate on becoming free from your day job first by following a proven step by step method that has allowed others to either quit their job or work less within a reasonable time. When you’re free, you can focus your energy, when it’s often the highest (between 9-5) on your passion.
I’m not saying that B is better than A or vice versa. It’s a personal preference. However, I will mention that we chose the B alternative. Again, please note that the A and B choice is only a generalisation. Like most things, there are exceptions.
Okay, so let’s say you’ve decided on either A or B. Or perhaps you’re already in a position where you’re able to focus full time on your passion. Either way, it can be good to at least have an idea of what your passion could be.
Start Where You Are With What You Have
Let’s begin to analyze who you are. The first fact that we can find about you is that you’re not like anyone else. Yes, that’s true, your DNA and the way your brain is configured is unique. This fact has been proven by scientists again, and again so that’s no secret.
How can we use the information above to our advantage when finding out our passions? Well, go back in time to when you were between 5-10 years old. Can you begin to see any pattern of things that you enjoyed doing back then? Can you also see some patterns of things that you didn’t like doing? There is also very likely that you were good at the activity you enjoyed doing and less good at the action you didn’t enjoy. This pattern could be things like drawing, writing, opening up a lemonade stand, communicating, running, technical stuff, etc. Go through your teenage years and back to the present. Is that pattern still right in some sense?
Figure out Your Passion as You Go Along
Now, we are not able to pinpoint our passion to a particular word like drawing for example. However, we can see a pattern of things that we enjoy. For example, we like starting new projects, writing, strategizing and more. If we had to put a name on our passion, it would be freedom. Freedom allows one to focus on doing whatever one chooses.
One of our favourite quotes is by Steve Jobs, and it goes something like this: “You can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking back.” So just focus on moving in one direction and figure out your passion as you go along. Concentrate more on finding the love in what you do instead of finding what you love. That last sentence leads us into a critical mistake to avoid when trying to figure out and follow your passion.
Avoid This Mistake
In his book Mastery, Robert Greene describes how your passion might fade away a while after you’ve discovered it. Think of it as you would think of the passion between a new couple that has just fallen in love. That extreme passion might fade a little bit after a couple of years before it comes back again.
Now, this step is crucial: You have to endure the drudgery and boredom of whatever you decide to do. Understand that this is a phase you’ll have to go through before the passion will come back even stronger. If you don’t go through it, you’ll just be another dabbler who is jumping from one thing to the other and forever looking for that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. Choose something, stick to it, master it and evolve.