As the saying goes, if you’re not growing, you’re dying. The nine signs below will give you a clue of whether or not you’re growing as a person. Enjoy!
1. You’re experiencing discomfort
If you’ve read the book Antifragile by Nassim Nicholas Taleb, you know that humans transform from chaos.
In Taleb’s own words; “Some things benefit from shocks; they thrive and grow when exposed to volatility, randomness, disorder, and stressors and love adventure, risk, and uncertainty.”
So when you’re experiencing discomfort, you can be sure that you’re growing.
You’ve probably also heard about the idea that your comfort zone is your danger zone. That is because personal growth happens outside of it.
2. You do not know the answer
When you’re faced with a question that you don’t know the solution to, you have to exercise resourcefulness. And when you use this muscle, you’re guaranteed to grow.
If people and events are requesting new and more answers from you, it’s a sign that you’ve leveled up.
3. Your closest circle don’t know the answer
When you’re faced with a question that you don’t know the answer to, it can be natural to turn to your peer group.
But if you’re growing, it might be shocking to realize that they don’t know the answer. This is a sure sign that you’re growing as a person.
4. You’re facing bigger challenges
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He continues; don’t hope for fewer problems, instead, wish for more skills.
When you’re encountering new and bigger challenges, you can be sure that you’re growing.
Think of CEOs in large enterprises. Do you think they will face greater challenges than their employees?
For example, who is questioned by the media if something bad were to happen? Or, who is confronted by angry shareholders when the numbers aren’t going the right way?
The CEO will be the one with the biggest responsibility to solve major problems. And of course, he often receives more money than anyone else in the company because of this responsibility.
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5. Petty things no longer affect you the same way
Have you ever felt tired of hearing about the latest drama, gossip or complaints by people in your surroundings? If you have or feel this right now – it’s a good sign that you’ve grown or that you’re growing right now.
You might also discover that you care less and less about what other people think of you. This is also a sign of growth. You’re overcoming this innate fear which will serve you as you reach higher and higher levels.
6. New people are coming into your life
As we’ve covered in number 3, your peer group might not know the answers that you need when you’re growing. This can be an opportunity for you to upgrade your peer group and seek out mentors that can guide you.
But sometimes, you don’t necessarily have to seek out people for them to enter your life. Random events might occur and all of a sudden, you have new people entering your life.
So, another sign of growth is the inflow of new people into your life.
One tip to make sure that you’re always growing is to place yourself in a group of individuals that makes you uncomfortable. Perhaps you experience discomfort because they are further ahead than you – that’s great!
One way of following the tip above is to go to workshops and seminars.
7. You’re distancing yourself from old friends
There is a saying that goes; you are the average of the five people and books that you surround yourself with.
If you want to grow a muscle in the gym, you can’t “hang out” with the same weights forever. Similarly, when you’re experiencing personal growth, you can often find that your old friends aren’t resourceful to your pursuit of growing stronger.
Now, one sign that correlates with this sign of leaving old friends is loneliness. Because if you’re leaving old friends because of personal growth, then you will perhaps become more alone than before.
8. You feel overwhelmed
If new challenges are a sign of growth – then it’s likely that you’ll experience overwhelm from time to time. And guess what; that’s great!
I encourage you to change your perspective on “overwhelm” from here on now. So, when you feel overwhelmed – become grateful and happy! You are now on the path of growing stronger.
On the contrary, if you do not feel overwhelmed – it’s time to step up! Take on more and bigger challenges to ensure that you’re always growing.
9. Your standards are higher now than they used to be
As you go through life, your standards will raise. To prove this point, think back to when you were a child.
As a kid, you were most likely happy to receive candy on Saturdays. But as you became a teenager, you demanded more. Perhaps you wanted to go out with friends on a Saturday to feel happy.
When you’re an adult, you can go out whenever you want to. Just going out on Saturdays no longer gives you the same satisfaction. Now, you’re standards might be to rent your own apartment.
Once you buy a house, you might notice that it will difficult for you to go back to renting an apartment. You’re now used to the freedom that a house provides – in other words; your standards are higher.
So whenever you feel like you can’t go back – whatever that means to you. Understand that it’s most likely a sign that you have grown.
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